Son and father gay
Father, Son, and House of…Gay? A Blog, for Planet Religion Day
IntraSpectrum Counseling commemorates World Religion Day, and acknowledges the impact, both positive and negative, that religious institutions and our religious beliefs can own on our mental health. For those in the LGBTQ+ & BIPOC communities with ties to religions that still discriminate, the impact can be profound. This post offers perception, empathy, and a positive path forward for Diverse people of faith.
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Growing up in the South was challenging at times, particularly as a queer male student attending Catholic institutions. I can keep in mind not being “out” at the time, and choosing to attend my H.S. Prom with female classmates. I also recall the sadness that my partner reported experiencing when I didn’t ask her to be my girlfriend tracking Prom, and that our shared friends had made her a CD to play to help her cope with that sadness. Years after, when that memory was revisited in conversation with our acquaintance group, I felt easy enough to finally verbalize, “I wish someone had made me a CD to cope with how I was feeling…” Their silence was
Father opens up about coming out to his 3 sons: I'm still the same dad as before
"Good Morning America" is featuring stories in celebration of Pride Month. Scott Takacs, a 46-year-old and father of three, penned a personal essay about his experience coming out as a gay man to his sons. Examine about his journey below in his own words.
Coming out at 42
I was 42 years old when I came out to my wife. It was 15 months later that I started that similar conversation with my three boys -- 9-year-old twins and an 11-year-old.
The whole experience is somewhat of a blur, mostly in part to the truth that at that point in my life there was a lot of change happening and some significant pent-up emotions. There wasn't much of a plan, no guidebook in hand, only goals that I hoped my boys would start the process of empathetic and accepting their dad for whom I truly was: a gay man.
It had been a long 15 months since coming out to my wife, an experience I unfortunately wouldn't portray as positive, joy or something I ever want to repeat. It was wrought with the happiness of finally telling the closest person in my true identity, while simultaneously ripping her wo
Q:
I am a father of a 22-year-old son. I am not gay, but I have just found out that my son is. I am having a difficult moment dealing with this. I cannot talk about it with my son or my wife. I am thinking very seriously about leaving my family to be alone. What would you suggest?
A:
Slow down. Don’t make any major decisions until you’ve had some more time to let the communication sink in.
What carry out you mean when you say you “cannot” talk to your son or wife about this? Do you signify it is too difficult to argue with them, or that they deny to discuss it with you? Either way, you necessitate to talk about it. If not with them, then with a gay-friendly therapist (but not necessarily gay) or with one of the many, many parents who were just as stunned as you when they discovered a child of theirs was gay.
These parents meet around the country through PFLAG, Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians And Gays. The groups are confidential. If you are not comfortable going to a conference, you can still connect with a volunteer who knows what you are going through. Transmit an email or call the helpline listed for the chapter nearest you. To find a PFLAG group in your area, depart
Gay Like Me
Being gay is a gift, Jackson writes, but with their gains in jeopardy the gay community must not be complacent.
As Ta-Nehisi Coates awakened us to the continued pervasiveness of racism in America in Between the World and Me, Jackson’s rallying cry in Gay Favor Me is an eye-opening indictment to straight-lash in America. This book is an intimate, personal exploration of our uncertain times and most troubling questions and profound concerns about issues as fundamental as dignity, equality, and justice.
Gay Like Me is a blueprint for our time that bridges the knowledge gap of what it’s like to be gay in America. This is a cultural manifesto that will stand the test of hour. Angry, proud, fierce, tender, it is a powerful letter of love from a father to a son that holds durable insight for us all.
A portion of the author’s proceeds will be donated to
The Trevor Project.