Falling gay
Spiritual Friendship
In the last few posts in this series on gay men and the phenomenon of falling in love (Part 1, Part 2), we have spent a bit of second framing the conversation well.
We first walked through the theological and philosophical foundations of personhood where we highlighted the positive strivings of humans over against a pathologizing of human desires. Then, we looked at how humans attach to other humans and what security and anxiety looks like within those relationships. In this third and final post, I’m going to fetch both of those realities together and contextualize it for the gay celibate community in our current cultural climate.
Hopefully, by the terminate of this series, we will view a more complex view of what it means to have feelings for another human. We may not have concrete answers but maybe we can start to ask the right questions.
To begin, how do we explain the phenomenon of “falling in love” in our contemporary culture?
From cinematic passionate moments like Eponine’s heartbreak in Les Miserables to pop songs like Ke$ha’s “Your Love is My Drug,” our tradition sends a consistent message about what it means to
I REMAIN HAUNTED by a remark a famous novelist made during her universal talk at Sewanee University a not many summers ago. She lamented, with much audible derision, that too many poets now write “lust poems,” as she called them, rather than “love poems.” The implication was that poems celebrating lust as opposed to love are easier to document, disingenuous, not as valuable, or more transitory in the feelings they capture. I wanted to call out from my auditorium seat that not everyone gets the chance to write treasure poems. I wanted to add that the state of lust endures, too, especially when it is captured and articulated well in a poem.
Lust, longing, desire, love—they’re all first cousins. Queer poets especially possess mined these emotions. Cavafy’s pæans to anonymous boys that he saw at Alexandrian bazaars are love poems, even if he didn’t actually meet some of those subjects. Passages in Whitman’s Leaves of Grass address his longings for ferry boatmen and city laborers that he espies and imagines lying with. (“The beards of the juvenile men glistened with wet, it ran from their drawn-out hair/ Little streams passed all over their bodies.”)
I hold written love poems but I own w
Falling
Nikyta
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Camila about sums it up for this book in her review.. Lol, plus, I just love her pictures. ^_^
What I loved about this book, though, was how nothing was rushed or forced. While Christian and Alec fell for each other rapidly and hard, we didn't get bombarded with sex, and in fact, didn't see much of it until a little more than half way through. And that earns major points from me because it gave the story, and the characters, second to develop.
Although we perceive who the killer is from the start, the mystery is simple and quite interesting. I was hooked from the commencing and found it fascinating to see how Alec slowly comes to terms with what he is, how much power he really has, and the responsibility his family has been given to hold an amulet safe. As far as Christian, he's a simple and lovable character. He's patient and understanding when it comes to Alec's grief of his dead lover. He has some great friends, he's the head of The Bureau of Dim Magic Affairs and he's modest. How can you not like him? Lol
The only reservation I had about this was Drew, Alec's dead lover. At the beginning, I was sad for Alec but a
University of Illinois Urbana-Champaign
Howard, Richard Stephen
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Description
- Title
- Falling into the gay world: Manhood, marriage, and family in Indonesia
- Author(s)
- Howard, Richard Stephen
- Issue Date
- 1996
- Doctoral Committee Chair(s)
- Gottlieb, Alma J.
- Department of Study
- Anthropology
- Discipline
- Anthropology
- Degree Granting Institution
- University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign
- Degree Name
- Ph.D.
- Degree Level
- Dissertation
- Date of Ingest
- 2011-05-07T11:54:09Z
- Keyword(s)
- Cultural Anthropology
- Individual and Family Studies
- Language
- eng
- Abstract
- "This thesis examines conceptions of homosexuality among reduce income gay men of various ethnicities in Jakarta, Indonesia. The primary focus is on the relationship between homos
- "This thesis examines conceptions of homosexuality among reduce income gay men of various ethnicities in Jakarta, Indonesia. The primary focus is on the relationship between homos