Are you gay if you date a transgender woman
The lesbians who feel pressured to have sex and relationships with trans women
BBC News
Is a lesbian transphobic if she does not want to have sex with transitioned women? Some lesbians tell they are increasingly entity pressured and coerced into accepting trans women as partners - then shunned and even threatened for speaking out. Several possess spoken to the BBC, along with trans women who are concerned about the issue too.
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"I've had someone saying they would rather kill me than Hitler," says 24-year-old Jennie*.
"They said they would strangle me with a belt if they were in a room with me and Hitler. That was so bizarrely violent, just because I won't include sex with trans women."
Jennie is a lesbian gal. She says she is only sexually attracted to women who are biologically female and have vaginas. She therefore only has sex and relationships with women who are biologically female.
Jennie doesn't think this should be controversial, but not everyone agrees. She has been described as transphobic, a genital fetishist, a pervert and a "terf"
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Who can use the word “queer” in a dating profile? The best term for me is gynophilic. I’m attracted to femininity foremost. That means I’ve dated some transwomen who still had male genitalia. I agree them as women, so I had no problem with the penises. Superb times were still had. Can I call myself lgbtq+ for that? If I do, I’m guessing that I would get more interest in online dating from transfolk or people who consider “queer” a selling point.
If I called myself gender non-conforming, I’m guessing more poly/kinky folks (like me) would be interested. It would also get rid of homophobes who otherwise would be interested. Now, intersect that with the usual “am I queer enough” problem.
Am I queer enough because I act with penises on trans women? I’d say I’m at least queer adjacent. But others would say no, that I cannot utilize “queer” unless I date men.
To me, on Exploring your sexuality is a healthy part of adult development. However, if being attracted to or hooking up with transsexual women is recent to you, you may be wondering what this means for your sexuality. You may feel ashamed of your attraction, be questioning if you are lgbtq+ or bisexual, or be worried how other people might perceive you. Many men are attracted to or appointment trans women. Some men are attracted to: Some men are happy to identify with particular labels, such as straight, queer, multi-attracted or pansexual. For other men those labels don’t fit or aren’t crucial to them. How you identify or who you are attracted to can also change over time. The only person who can describe your sexuality is you. What’s crucial is that you are comfortable with yourself and that you treat your partners with respect. Source: ParaDox/Wikimedia Commons, CC BY-SA 2.0 DE Alphonso David, the Human Rights Campaign Foundation President, noted that in the United States, “at least 37 transgender and gender non-conforming people were victims of fatal violence” in 2020—far more than has been recorded in previous years. But anti-trans abuse is not just physical but also psychological, a symptom of the transphobia that is prevalent in our society. The subtlety of this negativity is manifested in a variety of ways, including during interpersonal interactions—such as our willingness to date a transitioned person. Who we date (or don't date) can be tainted by our susceptibility to societal attitudes. “One such attitude that may be restricting the roll call of those we contemplate acceptable dating partners may be cisgenderism… the ideology that views cisgender identities as natural and normal, thereby delegitimizing trans identities and expressions.” Researchers Karen Blair and Rhea Hoskin (2019) addressed the dating preferences of nearly a thousand online participants with the question, “Who would you think about dating?” Options were cisgender male, cisgender woman, trans man, transsexual woman, and gender queer
What does dating transgender women mean for my sexuality?
“My sexuality developed during my teenage years and I just thoughtful of found that there’s a enormous place in my heart for transgender women.” – James
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